self-reflection

  • Mencius – Chapter 12.16

    Mencius holds teaching has diverse approaches. Even refusing to teach out of disdain counts as education, stirring students’ shame and self-reflection. This silent correction upholds the dignity of the Way and works better than tedious lectures.

  • The Analects – Chapter 19.3

    Zizhang disagrees with Zixia’s selective friendship. He holds a gentleman honors virtuous people yet tolerates ordinary folks. One’s own virtue decides tolerance; blaming or rejecting others reveals insufficient self-cultivation.

  • The Analects – Chapter 17.26

    Confucius states forty is a mature milestone for self-cultivation. If one is still widely disliked by forty, deep-seated flaws make moral improvement nearly impossible, urging timely self-reflection and correction of faults early in life.

  • The Analects – Chapter 17.20

    Confucius pretended to be sick to avoid Ru Bei, yet played and sang on the lute once the messenger left. This silent rebuke saved Ru Bei’s dignity while prompting self-reflection, showing his subtle, deed-based educational wisdom instead of harsh verbal criticism.

  • To the Willow [Tang Poems]

    — Luo Yin By riverside you see lovers part on fine day; They cling together but they cannot make spring stay. Your catkins waft in the breeze when your branches sway, Could you retain those who are going far away?

  • The Analects – Chapter 15.30

    The Master said, “To have faults and not correct them – that is truly a fault.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 15.24

    Zigong asked, “Is there one word that can be practiced for a lifetime?” The Master said, “Perhaps it is ‘shu’ (reciprocity)! Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 15.15

    The Master said, “Be strict with yourself and lenient in blaming others, and you will stay far from resentment.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 15.4

    The Master said with a sigh, “You, Zhong You! Truly, those who understand virtue are few indeed!”