self-restraint

  • The Analects – Chapter 16.8

    Confucius said, “The noble person has three things to revere: reverence for the Mandate of Heaven, reverence for persons of high station or great virtue (‘daren’), and reverence for the words of the sages. The petty person, not understanding the Mandate of Heaven, feels no reverence; treats exalted persons with undue familiarity; and mocks…

  • The Analects – Chapter 15.27

    The Master said, “Clever words corrupt virtue; lacking patience in small matters disrupts great plans.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 14.26

    The Master said, “If you are not in a particular position, do not meddle in its affairs.”Zengzi added, “The noble person’s thoughts do not go beyond his proper role.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 14.20

    The Master said, “If a person speaks without any sense of shame, it will be difficult for him to carry out what he says.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 14.13

    Confucius asked Gongming Jia about Gongshu Wenzi, saying, “Is it true that your master never speaks, never laughs, and never takes anything?”Gongming Jia replied, “The person who told you that exaggerated. In fact, my master speaks only when the time is right – so people do not dislike his words; he laughs only when…

  • The Analects – Chapter 14.1

    Yuan Xian asked Confucius what constituted “shame.”The Master said, “When the state is well governed, it is right to draw a salary as an official; but when the state is poorly governed, to still draw a salary is shameful.”Yuan Xian then asked, “If someone can suppress competitiveness, boastfulness, resentment, and desire, can he be…

  • The Analects – Chapter 13.27

    The Master said, “Firmness, resoluteness, simplicity, and cautious speech—these qualities bring one close to benevolence/humaneness.”

  • The Analects – Chapter 12.1

    Yan Hui asked about benevolence (humaneness). The Master said, “To restrain oneself and return to ritual propriety is humaneness. If for just one day everyone could restrain themselves and conform to ritual propriety, the whole world would return to humaneness. Cultivating humaneness depends on oneself—how could it depend on others?”

  • The Analects – Chapter 9.18

    Confucius said, “I have never seen anyone who loves virtue as much as they love beauty.”