5.12 Zigong said, “What I do not want others to do to me, I have no desire to do to others.” The Master said, “Oh Ci! You have not quite got to that point yet.”
4.18 The Master said, “In serving his father and mother a man may gently remonstrate with them. But if he sees that he has failed to change their opinion, he should resume an attitude of deference and not thwart them; may feel discouraged, but not resentful.”