8.5 Master Zeng said, “Clever, yet not ashamed to consult those less clever than himself; widely gifted, yet not ashamed to consult those with few gifts; having, yet seeming not to have; full, yet seeming empty; offended against, yet never contesting – long ago I had a friend whose ways were such as this.”
Virtue increases along with magnanimity; magnanimity arises from the increase in man’s knowledge.
When you find that someone has cheated you, do not announce it. When someone insults you, do not let your countenance betray your annoyance.
When unexpected troubles break out between family members, keep calm instead of being upset.
Do not take others to task for minor transgressions. Do not reveal others’ shameful secrets. Do not nurse old grievances.