You can help others shoulder the blame for faults, but you cannot share the kudos of achievement with others. Sharing the kudos of achievement with others leads to mutual jealousy.
You can bear hardships with others, but you cannot share comforts with others. Seeking to share comforts with others leads to mutual enmity.
当与人同过，不当与人同功，同功则相忌；可与人共患难，不可与人共安乐，安乐则相仇。
Notes
Owning fault earns trust; claiming credit invites suspicion.
The erring fear isolation most; sharing their burden makes them feel enveloped in acceptance, deepening trust.
Retreat before gain preserves bonds better than contention. Merit and honors trigger possessiveness and comparison—fertile soil for conflict.
Cooperation thrives in crisis; allocation fractures in comfort.
In crisis, ‘shared survival’ aligns interests (‘cooperate or perish together’), subordinating disputes to primal will.
Entanglements in peace trump survival pressure in hardship at tearing ties apart. In peace, vanished pressure shifts focus to personal gain maximization, detonating latent conflicts over resource division.
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