When meeting an astute person who is not willing to converse much, do not rush to reveal your thoughts to him. When meeting a person who is puffed up with pride, be careful what you say.
遇沉沉不语之士，且莫输心；见悻悻自好之人，应该防口。
Notes
This passage from Cai Gen Tan (Tending the roots of wisdom) illuminates strategies for engaging two challenging personalities, emphasizing discerning prudence in human relations:
With the reserved and inscrutable (silent, introverted, or intentionally opaque individuals):
- Maintain guarded openness; avoid unguarded vulnerability.
- Over-sharing risks exploitation when intentions are concealed.
With the arrogant and dogmatic (those dismissive of others’ perspectives):
- Exercise vocal restraint; withhold unsolicited truths.
- Directness ignites conflict where humility is absent.
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